Is my boss a narcissist….

The hallmarks of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. It can be very difficult to work for a boss who appears to suffer from narcissistic personality disorder. While you may not know for sure if someone meets the criteria for a clinical diagnosis, you are likely to be well aware if they are demonstrating the following types of characteristics…

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Working 9 to 5

I notice that Linked In is slowly becoming the underground grievance headquarters for the abused employee clique. While, I am thankful they have a place to collectively digress, I must say this can be dangerous. If said boss becomes privy to the collective he can become irritated and begin to seek out ways to punish his victim. 

My hope is that these employees eventually become the managers, owners, and founders they were deprived of having. Likewise that upper management get help urgently, it’s no fun feeling attacked and off balanced, especially at the place you are required to excel and advance. I wrote 9 to 5 for the collective aforementioned.

No, he is really out to lunch…

There was a time when the term “out to lunch” consisted of engaging in a meal halfway through the work day. Today, in the 21stcentury the word had transformed and taken on the meaning of being crazy or out of touch emotionally. The idiom “out to lunch” is extremely covert and difficult to dissect to an outside party. It is believed the term was developed and frequently used within the workplace. The workday traditionally consisting of eight hours termed “The 9-5” compliments of Dolly Parton 1980 hit 9 -5.

Tumble outta bed and I stumble to the kitchen
Pour myself a cup of ambition
Yawn and stretch and try to come to alive
Jump in the shower and the blood starts pumpin’
Out on the street the traffic starts jumpin’
With folks like me on the job from 9 to 5

This tribute to the work force mindset had people who didn’t even like country music tuned it. It was such a hit that it was followed by a movie. Nine to Five was a tribute to anyone who was over worked, under paid, and pushed to the edge by a cruel boss. As a result of team work the employees take out revenge against the cruel boss, and even get an opportunity to make changes within the office environment.

When employees were having a tough day at the office and the boss was “out to lunch” the employees would take this opportunity to discuss the days havoc. It became a casual term to ask if the boss was “out to lunch” to determine if the coast was clear to talk freely keep a muzzle on. Employees never adjusted to the system of working within these confining conditions. The traditional office work standard was very formal and uptight when the boss was around. Yet, when he was “out to lunch” the atmosphere was much lighter, and people felt far more relaxed. The idiom began to travel within the workplace and ultimately the negativity associated with its conception. Long before the “out to lunch” term was depicted as a multilayered comment/question the negative emotions incurred when a boss is in the office had long developed. It preceded its negative definition and as such it was always an under the table commentary that could not be decoded easily.

The slogan slowly infiltrated the entire western world and helped employees to survive in competitive high-pressure work environments. It was a water cooler question that typically followed a freeing of the environment. The idiom was embraced as another approach to group therapeutic council and many looked forward to the “out to lunch” periods to discuss what the boss had or hadn’t agreed to. The bosses tended to stick together to avoid the “favorites” accusations and this created instant separation and caste systems. The term took on a negative connotation when the term began to overlap into if employees could converse safely about pressing issues and concerns within the office. While the CEO’s were eating at five-star meals and writing them off as lunch dates the employees were eating greasy burgers and fries at their desks. Naturally, this created a divided work nuance and the employees were rarely in agreement with change and additional responsibility. These were the days when people stayed on jobs for years and retired at the same place after nearly giving their lives over to these companies. Eight hours began to feel like a lifetime and people changed this dichotomy via returning to school, changing careers, or enterprising on virtual work opportunities.

Slowly, the term “out to lunch” has begun to dissipate as the workforce greatly changed. Today’s employees are contracted employees, temporary workers, and are comfortable with change and exploring different opportunities in different fields and locations. Fortunately, flex time options, forsaking lunch, or coffee breaks allow staff to leave work early. Offices have music casually playing in the background, and it’s not unfamiliar to see family pictures and artwork atop desks. The office is no longer stuffy and casual Fridays are frequently allowed. The sharing of holiday meals, office functions, and gift exchanges have greatly benefitted the work environment and overall moral. Learning to unwind together has created a far less tense work environment. Thereby, creating a far more casual work experience for the entire office, bosses included!

 

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The Northern Duchess
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Chastity Chyld Incorporated Magazine
Publication date
January 21, 2019

 

References

Nine to five high: Substance abuse in the workplace. (n.d.). PsycEXTRA Dataset. doi:10.1037/e539952004-001

 

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